Cis Het male here. Funny thing, as I embraced my (non-toxic) masculinity I started wearing more pink as well.
It seemed, for me at least, with caring less about what others thought and being happy with how I present myself gave me the ability to wear clothes and colours that I may have otherwise not felt comfortable doing before.
I think a lot of cishet men are confined by what culture has told them is and isn't "manly" and have difficulty finding ways to define that for themselves without all the baggage.
Relatable! I still love super feminine stuff, but I don't feel like I HAVE to push as hard as possible on that in order to be understood correctly. Some days are just jeans and a boxy t-shirt and that's okay!
Yes, I feel this so much! I don't think I was ever strongly averse to pink, at least not consciously. But it never felt like it was really for me before I started exploring my gender and breaking out of my (admittedly) boring taste in fashion. The same with plain white, actually - I was almost afraid to wear it because of how much attention it can attract to someone like me with a taller frame. Now I unabashedly love both for almost the same reason I feared it. It attracts attention, yes, but it also creates contrast and interest, especially when paired with just the right amount of navy blue (my longtime favorite). And yeah, maybe pink does have an air of femininity to it still in my eyes, but anymore, that's a reason for me to embrace it, not run from it.
Fun fact! Pink was originally considered masculine and was only for boys as it was a light version of red (a "masculine" color) while baby blue was originally considered feminine and delicate. This changed as late as the 1940s.
I'm autistic and as a toddler my first special interest was straight up just... the color pink. Wanting to wear "all the pink things at once", all day every day, was just my state of existence. Alas, the therapists who worked with me saw this as a problem and started strictly regulating when I was allowed to wear pink - first only every other day, then only once a week, until my clothing choices were acceptably within "normal" bounds.
Now I'm an adult and don't own a single pink article of clothing, in part due to that and in part due to yeah... the tacit pressure on gnc afab people to reject pink on principle. But reading this me made me realize, screw that! Nobody died from anyone, toddler or transmasc person, wearing pink. I'll wear all the pink things at once if I WANT to, and there's nobody around to stop me! You've inspired me to start looking for a nice pink button-down, and I am very excited.
I'm a cis girl but I used to be afraid of wearing too much pink, because I didn't want to be a stereotype / to look too "girly"... I'm so glad I'm over this and I feel free to wear whatever color I want :D
Cis Het male here. Have you tried pink dress shirts, or pink ties with a blue dress shirt?
I don't know if this helps, but I always found good mid-level dress shirts at JC Penney's, especially the Stafford line. They're great for big/tall men like myself, but also good for commuting. Stainproof, no need to iron, etc. And coupons are your friend at JCP! (At least they used to be. Post-pandemic, men's dress shirt demand dried up, and they may be rethinking how they stock those things.) If a JCP isn't near you, try their online store- I used to buy about $100-$200 worth of the same styles at a time back when I cared about dress shirts. Now I telecommute and don't care.
You also might want to try a high-end men's boutique, or a really nice thrift that knows men's clothing. Stay away from, say, Jos. A Bank, where the dress shirts are inexpensive but are best used for toilet paper because of the crummy quality. Brooks Brothers used to be a gold standard shop, but after their bankruptcy and sale, I don't know if that's still true.
I don't know how you dress, because all I've ever seen of you is what's in the comics, so if you've already explored this, please forgive the mansplanation. I bring it up because there's a transformative effect to men's suits. My dad worked at the Philly Naval Yard, and came home in beat-up, dirty, dingy work clothes. But if you cleaned him up, got his hair cut, and put him in a suit, he looked REGAL. He taught me a few things, but I always wanted to know more, and he's been gone for years. He looked so good that I asked him to be my best man at my wedding, because I *knew* he'd look good in the suit.
Haha that is literally me!I remember when I was around 14-15 I would find pink too "girly" and misfit with my boyish personality,while now,6 years later I have embraced pink with all the strength of my soul 🤭
Growing up, I was uncomfortable woth ANYTHING girly at all, so I feel this. The more and more I get comfortable with being my femme agender self, the more I allow myself to play with traditionally "girly" aesthetics. Things are so much easier to embrace once they're not being forced upon you and the power of choice is in your own hands.
It's weird because I was just thinking about this the other day. I've realized that I actually really like the color pink but I've been too stubborn to admit it since I was so averse to it when I was younger. I think I still have a ways to go in becoming confident in my masculinity
Cis Het male here. Funny thing, as I embraced my (non-toxic) masculinity I started wearing more pink as well.
It seemed, for me at least, with caring less about what others thought and being happy with how I present myself gave me the ability to wear clothes and colours that I may have otherwise not felt comfortable doing before.
I think a lot of cishet men are confined by what culture has told them is and isn't "manly" and have difficulty finding ways to define that for themselves without all the baggage.
in related news, the more confident I get in my femininity the more comfortable I feel in Docs and a tank top
Can't wait to reach this point of self-confidence * - *
it takes less long than you'd think, and certainly nothing like "passing"!
Relatable! I still love super feminine stuff, but I don't feel like I HAVE to push as hard as possible on that in order to be understood correctly. Some days are just jeans and a boxy t-shirt and that's okay!
Yes, I feel this so much! I don't think I was ever strongly averse to pink, at least not consciously. But it never felt like it was really for me before I started exploring my gender and breaking out of my (admittedly) boring taste in fashion. The same with plain white, actually - I was almost afraid to wear it because of how much attention it can attract to someone like me with a taller frame. Now I unabashedly love both for almost the same reason I feared it. It attracts attention, yes, but it also creates contrast and interest, especially when paired with just the right amount of navy blue (my longtime favorite). And yeah, maybe pink does have an air of femininity to it still in my eyes, but anymore, that's a reason for me to embrace it, not run from it.
who said you can’t wear all your pink things at once tho YOU ABSOLUTELY CAN
Fun fact! Pink was originally considered masculine and was only for boys as it was a light version of red (a "masculine" color) while baby blue was originally considered feminine and delicate. This changed as late as the 1940s.
I am this but with green.
I am this but with blue (loaded for an AMAB person, as could say a swapped version of the original post).
Blue is dope af everybody knows it. My car is blue but not loaded.
Pink rules. I don't care which gender someone identifies with (if any at all) - pink should be in everyone's wardrobe.
I'm autistic and as a toddler my first special interest was straight up just... the color pink. Wanting to wear "all the pink things at once", all day every day, was just my state of existence. Alas, the therapists who worked with me saw this as a problem and started strictly regulating when I was allowed to wear pink - first only every other day, then only once a week, until my clothing choices were acceptably within "normal" bounds.
Now I'm an adult and don't own a single pink article of clothing, in part due to that and in part due to yeah... the tacit pressure on gnc afab people to reject pink on principle. But reading this me made me realize, screw that! Nobody died from anyone, toddler or transmasc person, wearing pink. I'll wear all the pink things at once if I WANT to, and there's nobody around to stop me! You've inspired me to start looking for a nice pink button-down, and I am very excited.
YAY! Pink is great :D
I'm a cis girl but I used to be afraid of wearing too much pink, because I didn't want to be a stereotype / to look too "girly"... I'm so glad I'm over this and I feel free to wear whatever color I want :D
Cis Het male here. Have you tried pink dress shirts, or pink ties with a blue dress shirt?
I don't know if this helps, but I always found good mid-level dress shirts at JC Penney's, especially the Stafford line. They're great for big/tall men like myself, but also good for commuting. Stainproof, no need to iron, etc. And coupons are your friend at JCP! (At least they used to be. Post-pandemic, men's dress shirt demand dried up, and they may be rethinking how they stock those things.) If a JCP isn't near you, try their online store- I used to buy about $100-$200 worth of the same styles at a time back when I cared about dress shirts. Now I telecommute and don't care.
You also might want to try a high-end men's boutique, or a really nice thrift that knows men's clothing. Stay away from, say, Jos. A Bank, where the dress shirts are inexpensive but are best used for toilet paper because of the crummy quality. Brooks Brothers used to be a gold standard shop, but after their bankruptcy and sale, I don't know if that's still true.
I don't know how you dress, because all I've ever seen of you is what's in the comics, so if you've already explored this, please forgive the mansplanation. I bring it up because there's a transformative effect to men's suits. My dad worked at the Philly Naval Yard, and came home in beat-up, dirty, dingy work clothes. But if you cleaned him up, got his hair cut, and put him in a suit, he looked REGAL. He taught me a few things, but I always wanted to know more, and he's been gone for years. He looked so good that I asked him to be my best man at my wedding, because I *knew* he'd look good in the suit.
Haha that is literally me!I remember when I was around 14-15 I would find pink too "girly" and misfit with my boyish personality,while now,6 years later I have embraced pink with all the strength of my soul 🤭
Pink is a beautiful masculine color. (It's just amazing in general for everyone)
Same with Purple and rainbow.
=)
Growing up, I was uncomfortable woth ANYTHING girly at all, so I feel this. The more and more I get comfortable with being my femme agender self, the more I allow myself to play with traditionally "girly" aesthetics. Things are so much easier to embrace once they're not being forced upon you and the power of choice is in your own hands.
You could if you weren’t a COWARD lol
It's weird because I was just thinking about this the other day. I've realized that I actually really like the color pink but I've been too stubborn to admit it since I was so averse to it when I was younger. I think I still have a ways to go in becoming confident in my masculinity