Assigned "So Brave" By An Older Woman Who Is Adamant That The Only Reason Your Hair Could Possibly Look Like That Is Because A Friend Of Yours Has Cancer
as a fellow redhead of indeterminate gender, this really hit me. i've literally had hairstylists who said they wouldn't dye my hair if I asked :| the feeling of cutting it and having agency over it when so many people have opinions on it is so powerful.
Like many other commenters the "not ideal" stage hits HARD. I called it the "bob of plausibly deniable queerness" as I desperately wanted it short for gay reasons but was scared getting the haircut I actually wanted would somehow out me, causing me to resort to the worst possible middle ground. My hair is also quite thick and poofed around my head in square chunks almost exactly as illustrated, except that my hair is dark brown instead of red. My brother called me "Dora the Explorer" for months after the haircut- which was mean but also wasn't WRONG.
Straight up I’ve wanted to have red hair my whole life— and have always had brown/blondish in summer. When I started t— my beard was black, but as it gets more and more established— I have a red chin…!!! It’s quite honestly one of the most euphoric parts of my transition. I think it’s weirdly super poetic and I should probably write about it tbh…
It took me year to figure out my hair. I ALWAYS knew I wanted short hair, but my mom wanted it to be long (with crappy bangs!) when I was younger. But then once I was finally able to get it cut shorter, I was firmly in that "not ideal" image. It was bad, and frizzy, and puffy, and made me feel weird about myself. I am so glad I've finally gotten to a point where I know what I like as far as my hair goes. It's the shortest style I've had my whole life and I've been maintaining it for years and I feel so much more me. ❤️
As someone who has yet to figure out their hair, and whose feelings about gender (and how hair relates to it) changes day by day, I really love this. Thank you <3
I have extremely long hair and for a long time I wondered if it was long because I liked it or because everyone else around me told me it was beautiful that way, that they would love to have hair that long, to never cut it, etc.
I'm still not entirely sure where I stand - I wish I could just try new hairstyles and then get my long hair back the next day!
With ageing, my hair grows slowly and thin in front, so I trim only the back and sides. Also, blondes darken with time before that silvery Killua look. So, each time I cut it, my new hair looks 4 or 5 tones darker than my forehead -extremely clear and orange-ish with years of weather and sun exposure. People started to think I dye my hair in that two-tone fashion: not very standard for a male in my years. So I need to dye and homogeneize the tones, to prevent people thinking I dye it.
Been all of these aside from going properly short, and I’m at the point where I want to but can’t seem to get there. Low self esteem and debilitating anxiety about others’ (ultimately inconsequential) opinions is a heck of a wall
I love to experience these everyday situations from a different viewpoint than my own. I think it strengthens empathy, and helps create a more comfortable world for everybody. At least I hope so...
yes!!! i am in a constant fight with my hair (i am now growing it out for the nth time, to see if that makes me feel cute, even though it's made me feel dysphoric in the past), but the absolute weirdest is when I am rocking a buzzcut and either get asked "why" I did it, or get the "you're so brave, it looks great but *I* could never do it". Didn't ask, but you're right, it does look great!
Really great comic. I've also always been told that my hair is nice but both I just never knew what to do with it but I would like to. Also, the fear your younger self had on the drop tower ride reminded me of a scene in It's Always Sunny where the exact thing happened so that gave me a chuckle. I hope you do find your look.
Assigned "So Brave" By An Older Woman Who Is Adamant That The Only Reason Your Hair Could Possibly Look Like That Is Because A Friend Of Yours Has Cancer
as a fellow redhead of indeterminate gender, this really hit me. i've literally had hairstylists who said they wouldn't dye my hair if I asked :| the feeling of cutting it and having agency over it when so many people have opinions on it is so powerful.
Like many other commenters the "not ideal" stage hits HARD. I called it the "bob of plausibly deniable queerness" as I desperately wanted it short for gay reasons but was scared getting the haircut I actually wanted would somehow out me, causing me to resort to the worst possible middle ground. My hair is also quite thick and poofed around my head in square chunks almost exactly as illustrated, except that my hair is dark brown instead of red. My brother called me "Dora the Explorer" for months after the haircut- which was mean but also wasn't WRONG.
My hair is the embodiment of the "not ideal" stage.
Straight up I’ve wanted to have red hair my whole life— and have always had brown/blondish in summer. When I started t— my beard was black, but as it gets more and more established— I have a red chin…!!! It’s quite honestly one of the most euphoric parts of my transition. I think it’s weirdly super poetic and I should probably write about it tbh…
Same feeling.
Always trying.
Still do.
It took me year to figure out my hair. I ALWAYS knew I wanted short hair, but my mom wanted it to be long (with crappy bangs!) when I was younger. But then once I was finally able to get it cut shorter, I was firmly in that "not ideal" image. It was bad, and frizzy, and puffy, and made me feel weird about myself. I am so glad I've finally gotten to a point where I know what I like as far as my hair goes. It's the shortest style I've had my whole life and I've been maintaining it for years and I feel so much more me. ❤️
As someone who has yet to figure out their hair, and whose feelings about gender (and how hair relates to it) changes day by day, I really love this. Thank you <3
I really like this comic!
I have extremely long hair and for a long time I wondered if it was long because I liked it or because everyone else around me told me it was beautiful that way, that they would love to have hair that long, to never cut it, etc.
I'm still not entirely sure where I stand - I wish I could just try new hairstyles and then get my long hair back the next day!
Anyways, thank you for sharing this.
With ageing, my hair grows slowly and thin in front, so I trim only the back and sides. Also, blondes darken with time before that silvery Killua look. So, each time I cut it, my new hair looks 4 or 5 tones darker than my forehead -extremely clear and orange-ish with years of weather and sun exposure. People started to think I dye my hair in that two-tone fashion: not very standard for a male in my years. So I need to dye and homogeneize the tones, to prevent people thinking I dye it.
I do the same thing with running my fingers through my hair after moisturizing and the first two people I mentioned this to both went "ew!" haha
Been all of these aside from going properly short, and I’m at the point where I want to but can’t seem to get there. Low self esteem and debilitating anxiety about others’ (ultimately inconsequential) opinions is a heck of a wall
so we all agree that the bandana era is necessary for a person questioning their gender right?
Thanks for making me feel something new.
And yet still relatable and familiar!
I love to experience these everyday situations from a different viewpoint than my own. I think it strengthens empathy, and helps create a more comfortable world for everybody. At least I hope so...
yes!!! i am in a constant fight with my hair (i am now growing it out for the nth time, to see if that makes me feel cute, even though it's made me feel dysphoric in the past), but the absolute weirdest is when I am rocking a buzzcut and either get asked "why" I did it, or get the "you're so brave, it looks great but *I* could never do it". Didn't ask, but you're right, it does look great!
Really great comic. I've also always been told that my hair is nice but both I just never knew what to do with it but I would like to. Also, the fear your younger self had on the drop tower ride reminded me of a scene in It's Always Sunny where the exact thing happened so that gave me a chuckle. I hope you do find your look.