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Every time you post a comic it’s like getting a slap in the face and then immediately a kiss on the forehead. Thanks for letting me know I’m not alone.

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My youngest child (is there a gender neutral noun for son/daughter? We tend to use a made-up Norwegian word which means something like "snoogums", just because it's a nice word) is on this journey. They're 12 and will have an easier time of it than you've had, partly because you've been there to help them see that it's OK. She-Ra and Lumberjanes are huge, safe pieces of comfort to them on their journey and it has also helped the rest of my family (where I'm the only non-queer person, it turns out) tremendously. We owe you so much. Thank you for your honesty, wrapped in amazing art. For a guy pushing 50 I've been a good dad and husband to my wonderful, unusual family, but there's so much to learn, so much to simply get used to. It would have been a lot harder without you. All the love.

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every time i read this comic it hits so right, but fuck, the part about "aa my hips" "youre literally fine" followed directly by the "please fill this card out so i can know what to be insecure about"-- fuck i have never felt my transness so accurately pinpointed

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"I want to be both, I want to be neither, I want to be beautiful, I want to be confusing." There's such a poetic pulse to that and I feel so seen by it in the very best way. Some days, I want to bring it all in, paint a little bit of every gender expression onto my sharp-edged canvas. Other days, I want that same canvas to be transparent, let everyone's eyes see straight through it and miss noticing me entirely. It's a lot and I'm only now starting to build the courage to let both lights shine in their own time. But this this this, it's just the reminder I needed. That sort of freedom is out there and I want it - selfishly, but I want it. Thank you thank you. It's almost cliche to say online, but this piece really gives me life.

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I started low-dose T exactly 2 months ago. Last night, I felt incredibly dysphoric - but in such a way and to a degree that I've not experienced in my 34 years. I felt so anxious, confused, and alone last night and this morning... then I read this and sobbed lol. There are words and images here that hit so close to home that my only emotional response was to cry in relief for feeling genuinely understood by a stranger. While I always appreciate and often relate to your posts about gender, this one is particularly helpful. Thank you for what feels like a virtual hug <3

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Reading this story, your journey hit almost too hard and answered so many questions I had about myself. Here I thought I was alone and selfish for not choosing a side with gender. I didn't even know I could choose be everything and still be ok. Thank you so much!

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I wanted to be the powerful women because women are so beautiful and strong. But the idea of being a boy seemed to distant. I really relate to this πŸ³οΈβ€βš§οΈβš§

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Thank you, thank you, thank you, thank you.

I'd gladly write a more elaborate answer because this post makes me feel SO. MANY. THINGS! about gender and my own thoughts and coming-out process (as some woman-adjacent work in progress). But. The only thing in my mind right now is strong gratitude and wanting to pour buckets of affection on you for writing and drawing this, it makes all this feel more, more, more alright? Valid? Real? It gives a visibility and a sense of normalcy to all these pre-realization trans thoughts that fill me with so much relief.

Thanks.

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Is this why you wrote Nimona? Did the concept of a powerful, unknowable entity that wanted to be themself resonated with you in a way the modern stereotypes of gender didn't?

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Wanting to obliterate gender and embrace all aspects of it is what makes this all so... freaking confusing!! But giving into the paradox is also really freeing. This has been my experience at least but man is it anxiety provoking. I love these comics, thank you.

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Just gonna print this out and put it in the gender field of every form I ever fill out. Thank you a million times over for sharing these comics. I feel seen.

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This is incredible. I absolutely relate to and understand both wanting to destroy gender and embrace it. As always, thank you so much for sharing your stories.

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"What sick motherfucker put this head on this body" is such a perfect encapsulation of how I feel about my own reflection. Thank you so much for sharing this.

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"What sick motherfucker put this head on this body"... Dude, I just can't imagine how tough it must feel to see yourself trapped in another gender's body, and to top it up, having to struggle your way within an strictly binary-built world and "reality"... And yet thanks to your trials and tribulations, and to the pains and pleasures available only to those capable of vibrating between genders at the speed of light, but so well expressed through your art, one gets to see a glimpse of a more real Reality, beyond gender and duality, and to wonder what awaits us beyond all the you's and me's and he's and she's... So thanks God (or the Goddess or whatever) you exist! <3<3<3

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You are a gender maelstrom and no one can stop you.

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Thank you for sharing this

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