I've received that golden thread from you and just had top surgery on Monday, so thank you. We've never met, but you've changed my life for the better
Thank you thank you thank you, a million times over, for being so open and honest and vulnerable with your transition. So much of what you've said has resonated with me and it's helped me come to terms with who I am as a nonbinary person. I've only just come out to a couple of people, my partner and my closest friends, but I've got my hand tentatively on that golden thread now. I'm eager and excited and still a little anxious to see where it leads. Here's to hoping I can shine that golden light for others along the way.
Your openness about getting top surgery, the normalcy with which you represented recovering from it, and the inner glow that's been shining from you in all your pics since, has been an enormous motivation for me to pursue top surgery for myself. I caught that golden thread, and I'm tugging to see where it leads me. Thank you, thank you, thank you.
I’m so grateful to you for sharing your transition stories. I even printed one that particularly resonated with me (Top), and included it with a coming out letter to my mom. I go back and read it every so often as I consider my next steps in my personal gender journey. Thank you for being openly you!
I truly don’t know if top surgery is the right choice for me, but the moment you shared your comic about getting yours last year I felt something change in me. I’d already been exploring my gender in different ways and felt myself relate to a lot of your comics as I came to understand my own feelings on being nonbinary. But these were my exact thoughts: I’m jealous? I wasn’t even sure if I could recognize it as jealousy at first. Can I do that? Do I want that? What if I still feel like a woman in a lot of ways? Am I allowed to do that? It wasn’t until your “weight of them” comic that I realized that I at the very least would love to try wearing binders, which I never have before. And I still don’t know…do I want a completely flat chest? Or just a flatt*er* chest? But as you said in one of your instagram posts, it’s not that I *dislike* my boobs, it’s just a feeling of them being there like a “blank space”…I wouldn’t say I’m dysphoric, I’m just not super attached and the idea of not having them, or having less of them, seems freeing in some way. I have often thought how did you know? And I know you didn’t know for a long time, and sometimes that’s the way it is. You’ve helped me to embrace the not-knowing aspect of gender, and I’m so thankful for that, and for all your comics! <3
I think the “not-knowing” scares a lot of people, and it did for me at first, at least when it came to gender, so I would put off thinking about it. But now I realize not-knowing in and of itself can be freeing in a way I never knew before.
Lol "top surgery for totally real cis women" reminds me of when I searched for "effects of taking estrogen for totally real cis men".
these quiet comics speak to a quiet voice in my heart that i'm learning to listen to. thank you for this space and this vulnerability.
Your post on top surgery helped me come to terms with my fears of pursuing what I've always wanted. So excited to start looking for doctors and booking my surgery. Your openness about your journey has been a guiding light for mine and I'll forever be grateful <3
I'm not sure if I'd describe your effect on me specifically as a golden thread. In my case, it would be more akin to an unexpected shove into a swimming pool. Or maybe getting hit by a truck that I really should have seen coming.
All the clues were already surrounding me, but I didn't recognize them for what they were until one of your comics opened my eyes to what should have been obvious years ago.
So whatever you did to me, thanks! ❤️ I hope I have the same effect on others as I continue this weird gender journey.
I don't think we've met in person, but I have given that look, and I have received that look, and I am holding that thread for everyone else who comes along
You inspire me to be myself
Thank you for this golden thread
I've never liked my boobs, i don't think i've ever wanted it. I even have this vivid memory of a 7 year old me looking down at my flat chest and just feeling happy about it. Despite all this, I never saw surgery as an option for me due to the constant accusation from my parents for "trying to be a man." When you posted for the first time about your top surgery I just felt so happy for you and I related a lot with the comic you shared on that moment. That was it for me, not sure when or how I'm gonna do it but it just make me really happy to know that someday i will get my flat chest back.
Hope you know you're the reason I finally understood that I wanted top. <3
I am following a different thread but the experience is no less powerful. Thank you everything you do.
Me as well. Reading The Weight of Them last year opened transition back up for me as a possibility when I thought I had closed it off. I'm now 1 month on T and so grateful to you for sharing that light.
oh this is so comforting. thank you