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Thank you for this 🧡 I'm also early in my transition and don't know where I'm going yet, but I feel a lot better knowing that so many other people - you included - are walking the same path just ahead of me and showing me the way.

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Freak.

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This made me tear up, but that drag march fit tho!!!

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As it often is the case: woaw. Thank you so much - I'm glad and happy to feel a bit of this feeling of whole self-acceptance where you're at. Thank you for sharing.

(And-- there's just so much poetry in this - particular kudos to "I am not an unfinished person; I am a chapter in a book still being written.")

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Not that you had anything to make up for, but this is pure poetry. And a great example of my storytelling mantra/guiding light: the Universality of Specificity. Gorgeous. <3

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Thank you for this <3.

I'm in a mental transition - unlearning who my mother told me to be, the box society automatically puts me in - and learning who I want to become. How I want to advance in my way that makes sense to me, finally.

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ND you don’t owe us shit you’ve already given us everything we deserve and beyond

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😊🙌🏻

No sorry needed btw. We’re not entitled to what you offer and share, it’s always a joy though!

(Also breaks to do what you/we want and like with as few obligations as possible is 👌🏻)

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This was beautiful and I relate to it very closely. I'm not yet at the stage where I feel that I really know who I am or who I want to be, despite being on this journey for a while now, but I do feel less insecure which is a relief. There are still nagging thoughts of what I should do or not to achieve my FINAL FORM but they take less space and feel less intrusive now than they did at the start of my transition. I'm happy that you have found a security in yourself and your self-expression.

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"I am possibility and I am history and they are one and the same."

Good line.

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Love that you're still getting to use your wedding dress in new and beautiful ways 💜💖✨

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dear ND,

this is beautiful.

"to change is to be in conversation with your past"

and all the rest of it!

!!!

thank you for sharing the art of your journey!

love,

myq

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i think we started transitioning around the same time, and watching your journey as i go through my own has been really comforting. i appreciate your willingness to share your experience nate and i hope it’s all (or mostly) uphill from here ♡

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You still look great in a dress.

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Great comic. However, I hope you never decide to get bottom surgery. Seriously, it's horrifying.

Personally, I think you look great with long hair. XD

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If that's what you look like irl HAWT DAMN

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If you have not yet had the pleasure I highly recommend that save up for a tailored suit. It's worth a splurge and you will feel A-MAZING! Even going in for the measurements is a cool experience. You can get an inner lining with a nice shock of color or patterning that flashes when you leave the buttons open.

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