ND - so many other folks are saying it, but truly, these comics give voice to so much of how I feel and I'm so grateful for them. They give me such a sense of comfort that I'm not alone in these thoughts and struggles.
Uff I feel this so much. I've started referring to my fashion taste as "Victorian dandy" because I like the "masculine" clothes and suiting but I also want colors and patterns and impractical ruffled collars
I still have a few dresses in my closet that I can't bring myself to get rid of, even though at some point I just started feeling so not myself in dresses. I keep wondering if I'll go back to them someday.
Gods, this hits the nail on the head. I'm an afab fem, but ID enby the majority of the time. I know everyone sees me as female but presenting really feminine still feels wrong in such a significant way. I love how dresses look, but I can't recognize myself in them. I wish I could appreciate them with the simplicity I did as a child. I guess I cling to my butch identity as a separation between me and cis girls.
It may take time, and it will probably be tough, but... we will make it. We will build a world where you can love what you love, where you can love who you love, and where you can love yourself and shine as you are. And we will build small, loving communities in the meantime, until these boundaries are finally broken on a larger scale.
I... I believe in this. Maybe I won't see this with my own eyes, and that thought aches, but at least asymptotically I know it will happen. I really do. Until then, I want to wrap my wings around my loved ones and hold them close, in a cocoon where every statement of their self is accepted and celebrated.
And in the meantime, each attempt in finding a way out will help pave the way for all of us. By finding so much echo within us, your comics are, too. Thank you, as always, for sharing your thoughts.
Ugh..couldn't agree more...sometimes when I try and wear something feminine I feel like I'm in "drag"....it's ridiculous to feel so messed up over clothes 🙃
Sounds like it is time to decorate your practical clothes! :3 It is real easy to add lace to things. The fact that masculinity so often means neglecting the desire to feel pretty or soft is a goddamn tragedy, imo. I am sure you'll find your happy medium!!
I was really frustrated with this yesterday. I feel like if I was amab I could be so much more feminine but I’m not gonna sacrifice the freedom that femininity gives me even though I’m not a woman
I was writing about this same feeling last night and I was struggling SO MUCH to put it into words. And then today you describe it so perfectly in this comic!! UHG!! How do you do that?!
This was exactly what I needed to read in this moment, so thank you for sharing your gender feelings and helping this genderqueer kid feel less alone.
It's great getting to know more about your own journey with gender. It's so uniquely yours that it feels so easy to relate to, even as a cis woman, but it also helps me understand my partner better (they're nb too).
I feel this so much. I’m a transmasc enby, and trying to navigate the space between what’s comfortable in terms of how others see me and what’s comfortable in terms of how I see myself is very difficult. I wish it were socially acceptable to dress like a hobbit all of the time instead of having to fixate on maintaining a certain image to get even the slightest amount of respect.
ND how are your comics always the biggest gender
you express how i feel so clearly and succinctly
as another nonbinary gender nonconforming transmasc - you aren't alone and we can break down gender together <3
this is literally exactly how i feel. these comics mean so much to me because they make me feel so SEEN.
ND - so many other folks are saying it, but truly, these comics give voice to so much of how I feel and I'm so grateful for them. They give me such a sense of comfort that I'm not alone in these thoughts and struggles.
Uff I feel this so much. I've started referring to my fashion taste as "Victorian dandy" because I like the "masculine" clothes and suiting but I also want colors and patterns and impractical ruffled collars
I still have a few dresses in my closet that I can't bring myself to get rid of, even though at some point I just started feeling so not myself in dresses. I keep wondering if I'll go back to them someday.
Gods, this hits the nail on the head. I'm an afab fem, but ID enby the majority of the time. I know everyone sees me as female but presenting really feminine still feels wrong in such a significant way. I love how dresses look, but I can't recognize myself in them. I wish I could appreciate them with the simplicity I did as a child. I guess I cling to my butch identity as a separation between me and cis girls.
It may take time, and it will probably be tough, but... we will make it. We will build a world where you can love what you love, where you can love who you love, and where you can love yourself and shine as you are. And we will build small, loving communities in the meantime, until these boundaries are finally broken on a larger scale.
I... I believe in this. Maybe I won't see this with my own eyes, and that thought aches, but at least asymptotically I know it will happen. I really do. Until then, I want to wrap my wings around my loved ones and hold them close, in a cocoon where every statement of their self is accepted and celebrated.
And in the meantime, each attempt in finding a way out will help pave the way for all of us. By finding so much echo within us, your comics are, too. Thank you, as always, for sharing your thoughts.
"I'm fine" in a female body but I'm not feminine as others.
Outfits should have no gender.
Love your mind and comics. =)
Ugh..couldn't agree more...sometimes when I try and wear something feminine I feel like I'm in "drag"....it's ridiculous to feel so messed up over clothes 🙃
Mmmmmmmm 💙 yeah.
Sounds like it is time to decorate your practical clothes! :3 It is real easy to add lace to things. The fact that masculinity so often means neglecting the desire to feel pretty or soft is a goddamn tragedy, imo. I am sure you'll find your happy medium!!
I was really frustrated with this yesterday. I feel like if I was amab I could be so much more feminine but I’m not gonna sacrifice the freedom that femininity gives me even though I’m not a woman
I was writing about this same feeling last night and I was struggling SO MUCH to put it into words. And then today you describe it so perfectly in this comic!! UHG!! How do you do that?!
This was exactly what I needed to read in this moment, so thank you for sharing your gender feelings and helping this genderqueer kid feel less alone.
I love your comics so much!!
It's great getting to know more about your own journey with gender. It's so uniquely yours that it feels so easy to relate to, even as a cis woman, but it also helps me understand my partner better (they're nb too).
Thank you for sharing them <3
I've literally been feeling like this lately...i just wow...your comics really hit home.
I feel this so much. I’m a transmasc enby, and trying to navigate the space between what’s comfortable in terms of how others see me and what’s comfortable in terms of how I see myself is very difficult. I wish it were socially acceptable to dress like a hobbit all of the time instead of having to fixate on maintaining a certain image to get even the slightest amount of respect.