Yeah I totally get this, as soon as I really say my family down and said hey I’m a masculine nonbinary person, I felt less guilty for being feminine because I knew who I was and everyone around me also knew who I was so I wasn’t hiding, I was just being authentic… SO GOOD LUCK WITH YOUR JOURNEY NATE!!!
Haha not the same thing but that’s how I felt after my breast reduction. Suddenly the pressure to be a woman felt like it was gone and I was like…hey, let’s wear a skirt, why not. I’m happy to see you doing you ❤️
I did the same when I figured out I was nonbinary. Feels safer to do feminine things. There's something about claiming the masculine that allows a transmasc person to not have to unconsciously shove any girliness away to emphasize how NOT A GIRL they are imo. The ability and confidence to finally say "I am [a man/boy/transmasc/nb/whatever]" means we finally are able to put feet on some slightly more solid ground and the smaller "incongruences" (for lack of a better word) aren't able to do easily box us in where we're not comfy.
THIS!! Exactly this. I can actually allow myself to like wearing the color pink and have flowers on my shirts or pants or whatever now that I'm transmasc
Oh, I understand that to some extent, yes <3 I mean it's not the exact same, but it's now that I'm out as a girl that I feel safer identifying as not-always/entirely-a-girl; like I had to anchor my gender there in public before feeling fine in exploring its variations, without risking that girl identity being stripped away from me.
It's a breezy and gentle slope from the other side, not the remnant of some global scale seismic disaster. Feminine things become more and more subversive by the day and less of a concession, especially in public. I myself have been Loving Florals these days in a way I always wanted to but couldn't stomach.
Gender can be really, really dumb. It's either all of them or none of them some days... As long as it feels right though, it is right. You're you and that's what counts, Nate.
I feel like this would be me too 😅 like I feel too masculine to really embrace fem things like girly clothes but if I was a guy it'd be okay? Idk either 🤷
I find gender and especially non-binary/gender fluid people really interesting. I'm interested in the science, and being a trans woman it's very clear to me that the part of my brain that defines gender says 'you are female'. I often wonder what it's like for NB people? I guess when they think about gender their brain returns: 'error undefined'.
ME WHEN MY GENDER OVERFLOWS AND WRAPS BACK AROUND TO NEGATIVE NUMBERS LMAOOOOOOOOOOO
Yeah I totally get this, as soon as I really say my family down and said hey I’m a masculine nonbinary person, I felt less guilty for being feminine because I knew who I was and everyone around me also knew who I was so I wasn’t hiding, I was just being authentic… SO GOOD LUCK WITH YOUR JOURNEY NATE!!!
You are vast. You contain multitudes. <3
Haha not the same thing but that’s how I felt after my breast reduction. Suddenly the pressure to be a woman felt like it was gone and I was like…hey, let’s wear a skirt, why not. I’m happy to see you doing you ❤️
I did the same when I figured out I was nonbinary. Feels safer to do feminine things. There's something about claiming the masculine that allows a transmasc person to not have to unconsciously shove any girliness away to emphasize how NOT A GIRL they are imo. The ability and confidence to finally say "I am [a man/boy/transmasc/nb/whatever]" means we finally are able to put feet on some slightly more solid ground and the smaller "incongruences" (for lack of a better word) aren't able to do easily box us in where we're not comfy.
Or something.
I hope the exploration is fun for you :D
THIS!! Exactly this. I can actually allow myself to like wearing the color pink and have flowers on my shirts or pants or whatever now that I'm transmasc
Oh, I understand that to some extent, yes <3 I mean it's not the exact same, but it's now that I'm out as a girl that I feel safer identifying as not-always/entirely-a-girl; like I had to anchor my gender there in public before feeling fine in exploring its variations, without risking that girl identity being stripped away from me.
Tl;dr: big genderfluid mood.
Yesss it's like the more comfortable I feel in my actual gender, I don't feel I have to compensate for anything. I can just be me
Whatever feels right in the moment dude. That’s how it’s got to be.
It's a breezy and gentle slope from the other side, not the remnant of some global scale seismic disaster. Feminine things become more and more subversive by the day and less of a concession, especially in public. I myself have been Loving Florals these days in a way I always wanted to but couldn't stomach.
Gender can be really, really dumb. It's either all of them or none of them some days... As long as it feels right though, it is right. You're you and that's what counts, Nate.
If that isn't The Mood.
Gender is amazing for this very reason.
Thanks for sharing these - it's really helping me to feel more confident to experiment with how I present <3
Non binary vibes 🏳️⚧️
The wild and wonderful weirdness of gender 😂
I feel like this would be me too 😅 like I feel too masculine to really embrace fem things like girly clothes but if I was a guy it'd be okay? Idk either 🤷
I find gender and especially non-binary/gender fluid people really interesting. I'm interested in the science, and being a trans woman it's very clear to me that the part of my brain that defines gender says 'you are female'. I often wonder what it's like for NB people? I guess when they think about gender their brain returns: 'error undefined'.