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Molly Knox Ostertag's avatar

i love you I LOVE YOU

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Violet Rose in The Rain's avatar

I dunno sounds pretty ghey to me /hj

Just kidding, I'm glad the two of you are happy together.

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Matthew Makak's avatar

Wow. I feel this in my bones. As I'm going through my own transition, I've felt the same way- being scared but then loving the changes and feeling as though all those changes had always been there.

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Caye's avatar

Thank you for this… you have an experience that has mirrored mine since the beginning, but always a couple steps ahead, so when you release pieces like this it always seems to come at a time where I need a little reminder or assurance, and always hits right on the nail. It’s actually because my wife showed me your zine about your journey through surgery and identity that I was able to start my journey at all. I cried, I felt understood for the first time, and I realized I could have that for myself too. I’m sorry this is so rambling. Thank you so much for sharing these moments. It helped me a lot today.

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Medha Murtagh's avatar

Beautiful authentic comment that moved me. Not even a tiny but rambling. Or rambling in the best way. Feeling understood is so important. All the best to you.

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Eli's avatar

Some days...it's good to know I'm not alone in my uncertainty. Tysm for this🥺

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Jonas's avatar

You are great, Nate.

The German constitution guarantees the right to be free to "unfold one's personality", and I like that image of unfolding. We don't know what's underneath, inside, but we're here to find out, find our truths, share them, live them.

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Kiva-Marie's avatar

‘So how could it not matter?’ 😭 ❤️

This is absolutely magnificent. Thank you for sharing your journey in all its wild weirdness and beauty.

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Goyavoyage's avatar

I feel like a broken record thanking you for every other post, but, I really mean it. It means so much.

(Also I really really like the flower panel here)

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MN's avatar

Thank you so much for being so vocal about your trans experience... I'm young and GNC and it gives me so much hope. "That old familiar disappointment" I've never heard it described. It's so simply put but hit so close to home

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Emma's avatar

This is beautiful Nate. The fear of the unknown, opinions of others, the early changes; beginning to give way to joy and a new wholeness. Thank you for being vulnerable and sharing all that you do, I’ve been following you since before I knew (either of us knew?) I was trans, and your posts have reassured and helped me understand myself in a way few things have. Take care 💜

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Sara_Belcher's avatar

Thank you for this post - and that's one thing about myself that I've realized because I always observed others and how they seemed to be accepted into society, so I became critical of myself and always asking "why". Through your journey, I initially had those questions, and realizing you don't owe any explanations about your journey. And vice versa with me to anyone else, unless I decide to share. I appreciate your authenticity, what you feel comfortable in sharing, and I enjoy watching you be.

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Nina's avatar

I love that for all the confusion and exploration, this makes you happy.

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Ronnie's avatar

so much of this perfectly encapsulates my transfem transition. Thank you for sharing it.

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awkwardsloth404's avatar

this is awesome to see, I'm still figuring it out for myself too, and it's nice to know I'm not the only one lost and confused by all this

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Jannelle's avatar

Ah. This one resonates hard, especially the line "Losing something that gave me value in strangers' eyes" thank you. Your comics have meant a lot to me, in navigating my gender as a lesbian.

Even as I lean more into my masculinity, I still find myself struggling with "do I like having boobs, or do I like that people like them." Despite the idea of top surgery sitting in my head since I was a teenager.

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Juand's avatar

you are amazing! trans rights forever

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JeffH's avatar

"The truth is, I don't need you to understand." As it (absolutely, inarguably) should be.

But thank you for sharing this journey with us, as I do understand it so much better! And it's wonderful.

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